Why geeks make better boyfriends
By Koka Sexton • May 19th, 2008 • Category: Geek BreakIn the wide world of dating, there are many options. Do you go for the flashy guy with the smooth smile, or the dude in the corner typing away on his laptop?
I found this list on the best of CraigsList and thought it was worth sharing.
1.) While geeks and nerds may be awkward, they’re well-meaning 9 out of 10 times. That smooth dude with the sly grin and the spider hands? Wonder what HIS intentions are… plus, I’ve never had a geek guy not call me when he said he would. Score major points THERE.
2.) They’re useful. In this tech-savvy world, it’s great to have a b/f who can make your laptop, desktop, and just about anything else that plugs into a wall behave itself.
3.) They’re more romantic than they’re given credit for. Ok true, their idea of romance might be to make up a spiffy web-page with all the reasons why they love you, with links to pics of you and sonnets and such… but hey. It lasts longer than flowers, plus you can show your friends.
4.) Due to their neglected status, there are plenty to choose from. You like ‘em tall and slender? There are plenty of geeks/nerds who are. You like ‘em smaller with more meat on their bones? Got that too.
5.) They’ve got brains. Come on now, how can intelligence be a bad thing?
6.) Most are quite good at remembering dates. Like birthdates and such, especially if they know it’ll make you happy. Due again to their neglected status, they’re more attentive than guys who “have more options”. Plus, with all that down time without a steady girlfriend, they’ll likely have mental lists of all the things they’d love to do once they GOT a girlfriend.
7.) Sex. Yep. Sex. I’m not really familiar with this myself, but I’ve friends who’ve been intimate with geek guys and it’s raves all around. They say a virgin wrote the Kama Sutra… all that time thinking about sex, imagining sex, dreaming about sex, (they are male after all) coupled with a desire to make you happy? Use your imagination.
8.) They’re relatively low-maintenance. Most can be fueled on pizza, Twinkies and Mt Dew. No complicated dinners needed here, so if you’re not the best cook, eh. Can you order a pizza?
9.) Most frequent bars as often as slugs frequent salt mines. You won’t have to worry much about your geek guy getting his “groove” on with club hotties because, frankly, he’ll be too busy rooting around under his computer wondering where that spare cable went. You won’t have to worry about him flirting with other women because, 9 out of 10 times, he’ll zip right by them in a perfect b-line towards the nearest electronics store. I’ve seen this happen.
Me: “Eww. Victoria Secret’s Models… They’re so skinny. How is that feminine? You can see her ribs!”
Geek Guy: “ooooooo…”
Me: “Hey!” *notices he is staring lustfully towards the computer store*
Geek Guy: “What?”
Me: “Never mind…”
10.) Although he may not want to go to every outing with you, you can arrange swaps, as in, you’ll go to his Gamer Con dressed as an elf princess if he’ll take you to the ballet. Plus, if he doesn’t want to go someplace with you, you won’t have to worry much about what he’s up to. You’ll probably come home to find him asleep on his keyboard in a sea of Mt. Dew cans with code blinking from the screen. It’s ok. He’s used to this. Just toss a blanket over him and turn out the light.
11.) His friends aren’t jerks. I can’t stress this enough. You’ll more likely get “Omg! A GIRL!! Can I see?!” than “Hey hot stuff back that ass up here and let me get some grub on…” They’re awkward geeks too and will, 9 times out of 10, treat you with the utmost respect and, more than likely, a note of awe. A cute girl picked one of their clan to date? It could happen to them! Hope! Drag some of your single girlfriends over, open up a pack of Mt. Dew, crack open the DnD set and get working. Nothing impresses geek guys more than a girl who can hack-n-slash (well ok maybe if she can code… a geek can dream).
12.) They’re rarely if ever possessive. They trust you, so you can be yourself around them. You like to walk around the house in a ratty t-shirt for comfort? He won’t care. He does too! They won’t get pissy if you don’t wear make-up or don’t want to bother primping your hair. If you gain a few pounds, they won’t try their best to make you feel like crap.
13.) They’re usually very well educated. Physics majors and the like. See #5. You won’t have to listen to him blathering on about his car (ok maybe a little), he’ll have loads of other interesting things to talk about. Politics, world events, how much the chicken burgers down at the local place rock, so long as you douse them in hot sauce…
14.) You’ll almost never have to hear, “Yaw dawg whazzap!!” plop out of their mouths. Unless it’s in jest. They spell properly, use correct punctuation, and are able to tell the difference between the toilet and the floor. They almost never get “wasted”, so you won’t have to worry about coming home to find him and his friends passed out on the floor amidst a pile of beer bottles. Mt. Dew cans, perhaps…
15.) And the final reason why geeks and nerds make great boyfriends: They actually give a damn about you. Not how you look (though that’s a plus), not how skinny you are, not how much make-up you primp yourself up with, but they like you for you. That kind of thing lasts longer than “DaMN baby you got a fine ass!!!” Believe me.
**UPDATE
This post is getting a lot of attention. I wanted to show all of the self proclaimed geeks that there is more than enough geeky ladies out there for you. Wired has a running list of the top sexy geeks. I don’t know if there is a site for geek bachelors but that may be a good idea.
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I think your article unfairly lumps all “geeks” as you put it into the same category. This is like saying that all black men have huge private and the cheat on women. As a side note it is obvious someone has wronged you in the past and you are settling with easy prey and someone you feel you have control over. Let me ask you this? Will a geek take you zip lining in Costa Rica? Will a geek take you on a romantic tour of Paris? Will a geek give you an unforgettable weekend in Las Vegas? Hell no. He is too busy playing WOW with his cyber friends or changing the internets one code at a time. Furthermore when is the last time a GEEK wrapped you in his manly arms and made you feel safe. Can he start a fire in the wilderness. Could he survive in the forest without food by catching his own? Could he win a stuffed animal for you at a carnival? Probably not. So choose wisely.
this is just sad…
@dj41326 that has got to be the best comment ever!
Thanks for posting this! I will direct my girl friend’s attention to it immediately!
@dj41326 not all nerds are lumps of fat with food receptacles. I am a nerd and I have done everything you said they couldn’t do. I do play WoW, but only when my girl is at work. I think you need to lay off the “roids” and read a friggin’ book!
dj41326, i think its interesting how you start off your comment by acusing the author of unfairly lumping geeks into one category, and then proceed to list off all of these things that geeks obviously cant do. geeks tend to make more money in this digital age, therefore those trips to costa rica, paris, and las vegas are much more feasible. as far as the manlyness goes, just remember that vin desil (who i would consider pretty manly) was a huge DnD nerd. in fact he based the way he acted ridicks character on a DnD character from his youth. and as for the survivalist stuff, how many “manly” frat boys do you know that can start a fire without a match or catch their own food. i dont know any. i would venture to bet there are alot more survivalist geeks. and even if they cant start that fire without matches, what geek is going to be without his trust gadgets. they are always prepared.
@dj41326 just as you said don’t lump all geeks together.
For example I’m a geek and I can bench press 259 pounds! I was in boy scouts and can survive in the forest without food. And even if a single geek doesn’t know they’re GEEKS for a reason, most of the time very will to learn if the think it might help them.
Wow,dj41326, I’ve seen some jerks in my life, even though that your response is well typed, that just takes the cake. Your saying that ALL geeks do that, I admit, there ARE some geeks who do that, but some geeks can do all that stuff you said. I’m a geek and I could do ALL that.
im not a nerd,yet i do bury myself in MD cans LOL.#2 is a real ass.she says geeks suck balls pretty much.
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dj41326, you are complaining that the author clumps all geeks into the same category. However you do the exact same thing. I consider myself to be a nerd of some sort so I enjoyed this blog post. But why wouldn’t a geek take you zip lining in Costa Rica? There is nothing keeping him from doing anything romantic like a trip to Paris, the point of the post was to describe that geeks will be willing to do all of these things for you, but for different reasons than most men will. A geek or nerd isn’t just a physical description. Geeks are not specifically bred with non-manly arms, and I’m sure geeks would know how to start a fire in the wilderness because they tend to be rather intelligent. To them starting a fire becomes an equation with friction and force, that is easily solvable.
I must partially agree with dj41326 regarding his comment (each geek is different like any other grouping of people, however i feel like i should address some points. First off, will anyone without a whole lot of money take you zip lining in Costa Rica? That costs money, especially with todays transportation costs, an intelligent person who has a large income (could be a geek, could be a “normal”) would be required, myself, I’ll try anything twice. As for an unforgettable time in Las Vegas, Vegas hosts a number of the biggest nerd fests in the world (Defcon springs to mind). You say Vegas, nerd/geek will say “mind if i hit the trade show thats in town?” Not only that, but I would totally make a week out of going to Vegas with my significant other and having some crazy outlandish…. fun (what happens in Vegas, stays in Vegas)
As a Geek, I persue a broad array of interests, can I start a fire in the woods. Depends, I can think of 12 different ways and what i would need to implement them, from magnesium shavings and a knife, to a lighter, matches, magnifying glass (which isnt usually an option where i live, its almost always overcast), or friction using any number of devices made from wood). Not only can I catch my own food, but I know how to forage, and can identify what is good to eat, what will kill you, and what will give you a rash.
Finally, carnival games. Depends, a geek isnt going to win the “Ring the Bell” game of the “Milk Bottle Game” but i can tell you from personal experience that I can win you the biggest prize on the balloon darts game and the Skee ball game on the first try, as well as some of the other games that require more reflexive skill and intelligence than brute force.
But its true ladies, dating a geek isn’t guaranteed to get you a winner, there are not too many women on line engaging in geek pursuits for a reason, geeks are assholes with an inability to act in a polite matter from years of social exile. The whole point of my rant is, no matter where you dip from, your as likely to find a keeper as anywhere else.
- A Geek
@dj41326
“They spell properly, use correct punctuation” - what she said
“This is like saying that all black men have huge private and the cheat on women” - what you said
choose wisely indeed
dj41326 - you are clearly NOT a geek but I have a feeling you kinda wish you were. I, however, am a geek and I can tell YOU a few things about what geeks can and cannot do. I have hiked over 500 miles in N. America with my girlfriend. I have taken my girlfriend to 15 countries and over 25 major cities outside the US of A. We choose not to go to Vegas as I would much prefer her boobs in my face than a strangers who will charge me $20/min. I’ve hiked the Colorado trail (479 miles) in 2 weeks and yes, I can build a fire! I wrap MY woman in MY manly arms every damn night - and she LOVES it!!!
P.S. I hope you girlfriend REALLY enjoys that oversized Cartman stuffed animal you won her at six flags last weekend - as me and my girlfriend cruise up Highway 101 on our way to tour napa valley in my new Lotus Elise (I make really good money ‘changing the internets one code at a time’)
dj41326, you’re saying you shouldn’t lump people into one pile in the first half of the comment, then telling us that geeks are incapable of adventure and romance? I’m most certainly a geek, although I don’t play WoW or anything like that. I’m a freaking engineer for crying outloud, but I also love the outdoors, I hunt, I can probable make a better fire than you, and I’ve taken my girlfriend to places most people only dream about. I know fancy food, I can speak a few languages (no, not just HTML and java), I can fix a car, I’m a black belt and a mountain biker. So I suggest you side with the first part of your comment. No, not all geeks are like me, and I know my fair share that would rather stay inside and play Call of Duty all day long. But as you said, I think you are unfairly lumping all geeks into the same category.
dj, you’re contradicting yourself. You complain that this article stereotypes geeks, and then afterwards you stereotype geeks by saying that they all play World of Warcraft and spend their life on the internet, and by saying that none of them are capable of zip lining, Vegas trips, etc…
While this article does make me sad on so many levels, Mr. dj41326 is a fucking moron.
Yes, this article is to stereotyping of the geek/nerd community, is politically incorrect about it, and written at the “fifth-grade-but-I-used-spellcheck” level. However, you yourself are doing exactly what you mocked the author for doing, “dj”. You don’t mind if I call you that, right? You are discouraging women from philandering with greeks/nerds most likely because you are not one, and because this article has been submitted to “Stumble”, where there is potential for hundreds of thousands of people to read it weekly. “I’ve got to respond to this,” you must have been thinking, “I don’t like this person’s opinion, and under the veil of the internet I can voice my complaint as an anonymous poster.” Of course, that’s probably a bit more intelligent sounding than the actual thought that crossed your mind.
Now, the Author is wrong for stereotyping. You are wrong for stereotyping. Because I have no idea who you are, and all I have to judge you on your single post on a blog, am I stereotyping? Could I be under the assumption that all people with bad grammar are total morons? I am, but that’s not why it’s okay. This single post on a blog is all I have to judge you from, and it is all you have left for me to judge you from. If you were thinking of turning my own point against me, you lost that right as soon as you hit “submit content”. You said someone had obviously wronged the author so if continue to follow your logic, well then it’s quite obvious someone wronged you as well. So, good sir or madam, I would like for you to stop pushing your own “generalized from a particular” opinions on people, and please step off the internet at the next stop.
Sorry dj, but there’s a few problems with what you’ve said…
See, I consider myself a bit of a geek. First of all though, I don’t play WoW (tried it once, it’s really not that great), and second of all, I could probably start a fire in the wilderness faster than you. While you sit there trying what you saw that guy from Castaway doing (rubbing your stick as fast as possible, no doubt), I’d be actually lighting a fire.
Third, what makes you think geeks don’t know how to take a trip to Paris or Las Vegas? Your average geek appreciates beautiful things more than you do, and would go to Paris as quickly to see the sights as you would to get inside some girl. While your intent is pretty narrow, a geek would be in it for the actual purpose of such a trip - to see the sights and do something romantic.
You see, you say that the author is lumping all geeks into a narrow category. But that is exactly what you’re doing. The author has seen that your little social stereotypes aren’t as accurate as everyone would think, and maybe you should too.
And honestly, not all geeks are easy prey. Generally speaking, we geeks have standards of a different type. Sure, we might not be looking for the hottest girl in the room, but we’re not going to settle for the crud in the bucket any more than you will.
And by the way, yes, I could survive in the forest. Geeks aren’t as weak as you seem to think, a lot of us have hobbys other than computers. For example, I cook as a hobby. I’d love to see you carrying around a 150-200 pound stack of foodstuffs at a local restaurant.
Will a geek take you zip lining in Costa Rica? Will a geek take you on a romantic tour of Paris? Will a geek give you an unforgettable weekend in Las Vegas?
Yes, they will. YOU are obviously “lumping all geeks into the same category,” Dj41326.
..when is the last time a GEEK wrapped you in his manly arms and made you feel safe.
Last night, in fact.
Can he start a fire in the wilderness.(?) Could he survive in the forest without food by catching his own? Could he win a stuffed animal for you at a carnival?
Yes. Yes. And yes, he has. Because of the increased hand-eye coordination, geeks/nerds are more likely to win at carnival games than normal guys.
Any other questions?
Thanks to the author for this wonderful article! This geek girl loved it!
@ Djwhocares: what are you on about?
i agree with your argument of lumping all geeks into one pot, but to then class geeks as people who don’t have even basic survival skills? Slap for you.
Me, if i didn’t have a completely buggered knee, i’d be out and about playing football (and i’m english, so it’s “not” soccer), rugby, and so on. Yet i’ll admit i’m a geek-if someone calls me a nerd in insult, i take it as a compliment. I love computers and games and (shock horror) computer games. I also like miniatures, literature, and i’m fairly well versed in a few languages (enough to get me to a hotel, i think). But, i do hang out with my friends a lot, i do get drunk every now and then. I like to think that, and here i go into using stereotyping to my advantage, i could do these things. Why? Look at bill gates. He’s MINTED (no, i don’t like just wigga lingo, but i think it’s fair to say he really IS minted though). Zip lining? sure. Romantic holiday? i know a geek and his fiancee have come back from a fortnight in paris, and from what i could tell, thoroughly enjoyed if. An unforgettable night in Las Vegas? well, if i had cash to burn, sure, otherwise the only memories will be “we did WHAT?!”. Can i start a fire? please. Catch food? Snuggle? winning a stuffed bear in a carnival? how, exactly, can a geek NOT do these things?
Does being a “normal” instantly come with a “Guide to survival: 1001 things NOT to eat!”. Just gimme a knife, and i’ll be fine. Hell, even a sharp rock will do.
Slap, for, you.
I’m not saying that i should be handing out this article around-it’s common sense, really. When you’re younger, you WILL go for the more attractive option. You’re young, wild, and who cares? you’ve got your whole life ahead of you! This is why the “average” geek will miss out-they’re generally unnatractive (yes, i am-i’m honest about everything). But, and i can’t stress this enough, How many hunks that you’ve been with because of their looks would you honestly want to stay with as thrilling company?
Nicer, gentler guys are for later, long term relationships. Flashy guys are short term. Ladies, if you find a nice guy who’s attractive, then it’s the same for guys who find women who are attractive mentally and physically: Go for them!
/endrant
you’re all fools, DJ is never coming back to read your comments!
he left you in hurt.
… and no I’m not him >.>
@dj41326
why you hating on “geeks”?this page is just a joke anyway so,no need to feel threatened by us “geeks” you won’t lose any skanks over it,so stfu!
@lawl ‘He left you in hurt’. So true! I wish he would come back just for giggles on his response.
@cuteadin I don’t think increased handeye coordination helps with fire building. But I do think a geek could Macgyver a fire better than any jock could.
@valgron I bow in your wisdom.
@anyone
I really feel that some people need to wake up a bit. Nerds aren’t any different than others, besides a few comments in the post. If you look, there are manly, muscular nerds, wimpy ones, smooth ones, etc. They are just like anyone else, its just not what the usual perceived view is. Sure a few may be like that, but its not entirely true that they are awful or good. I mean, some geeks look good, and some look bad, act, etc. I guess I get a bit off when I see stuff like this, a blonde joke kinda way in my view. I am a geek, but i’m not a sit in the corner guy. I am muscular and try my best to be there when someone needs or wants me. I am well feared like a jock, but people still like me, and no, i don’t play DnD. I play on a football team, golf, water polo, bowling, and some video games. I know this was a joke bit, and it was funny, but I just felt a bit anguish from dj41326, and thought i would post. And yes, we could survive in the wild and win carnival prizes, tried them both before ^.^
Great article. I was never a geek, never dated a geek (always went for the jocks and musicians), but constantly find myself gravitating toward them in social situations. In fact, after several years of marriage it occurred to me that I wished I was a geek and that I’d married one.
*le sigh*
But as this has become a “Let’s bash DJ90210″thread, I’d like to point out my favorite part of their reply. Wherein they make this enlightened claim about the author… “it is obvious someone has wronged you in the past and you are settling with easy prey and someone you feel you have control over.” A popular response of moronic jerks everywhere. If a woman does not show interest then she is a bitch, a slut (Like THAT makes any sense at all), a lesbian, needs to be laid, or is a bitter, woman scorned. In other words… it’s impossible that she might show such preference un-provoked or unless she’s “just not normal”.
you know, I have seen this one sooo many times… I am a geeky girl, and with as many geek boys I’ve dated in my time, I can honestly say that I really do believe this so called “female” is a fraud. Here are some reasons why…
1. Firstly, geek boys tend to call women “females” as a title of respect. I have found this to be basically always true, and have never heard another girl refer to us as “females”
2. A geeky guy tends to have a lot of problems finding a woman… I have found this to be true much of the time, and who is to say that some geek with an agenda isn’t just masquerading as a “female” .
3. “club hotties” from reason 9. how many times have you heard a girl refer to other girls as hotties… unless she’s a lesbian… and even then… most women know how stupid it sounds to call someone a hottie.
4. well, this person reminds me of not only 1 but all of my exes.
I totally agree with this article. As a nerd woman, I appreciate my amazing nerd boyfriend. We met on World of Warcraft as officers in the same guild, and now, post-WoW, we can look back in fondness on our geeky roots. It is so very nice to have a boyfriend that I can actually have an intelligent conversation with, and since we are both nerds, we will have successful careers.
For all the geek men and women out there, don’t lose heart! The hot geeks you seek are the ones that are dating people that don’t deserve them. Rescue them! Be their friends, and watch them realize how amazing you are.
dj41326, guess who’s the uber nerd here? Well, I should tell you, I went zip lining twice, rock repelling, Vagas multiple times, I’ve had a great deal of fun exploring the forests of china, and tailand, and india, and just about everywhere else, stuff animals at carnival? are you kidding, it’s all about stratagy (I have too many to give to my girl, so I gave them to my sister), and most of my friends have long since been eagle scouts. Finally my wow char. will kick your ass for making jokes about my arms…. that part was right, I only press 200lbs…
Bite me.
sencerely yours
Labrat
dj41326, zip lining in Costa Rica? never done that, I’ve done white water rafting in Costa Rica though, does that count? Romantic tour of Paris? Never done that, but I did happen to have that arranged for this summer already, so there you go. Weekend in Las Vegas? this appeals to neither me or my girlfriend, somehow we don’t enjoy getting drunk and throwing tons of money at a casino, go figure. I played WoW for about 2 days before I got bored, and I can’t code. My girlfriend actually tells me that she feel safe in my arms fairly often when I hug her. Sure I can start a fire in the wilderness, its not like its a hard thing to do. Survive by catching my own food? depends on where I am. Win a stuffed animal at the carnival? I have before, when I was about 8, but neither of us see the appeal of carrying a huge stuffed animal around with us for a whole day.
Why can I do all this? because I am a geek, and because I’ve learned how to do all of this. In my free time. Not only that, but I genuinely care about my girlfriend for reasons other than her being hot and sexy. Yes, I am a geek though, I know how to solve a Rubik’s cube in under 2 minutes. I figure out exactly what the best starting character is when I play a game. I am perfectly happy spending a whole weekend playing a game, or on the computer, provided my girlfriend doesn’t want to do anything else. I do know what all the statistics about my computer mean. I do know how to set up just about any piece of electronics I buy. I do know how to get the clock on my old VCR to stop blinking 12:00. And I have played DnD.
I also go to the gym 4 or 5 times a week. I also have traveled all over the world, and intend to bring my girlfriend everywhere with me. being a geek, I also learn about the places I bring her to before we go, so that I CAN give her a tour of Paris, rather than just wander aimlessly. When I go to Las Vegas, I may just actually make some money, since I can figure out the odds on every game I’ll play, and will be able to count cards, if I decide to learn how.
so yes, choose wisely indeed.
Obvious troll is obvious.
first things first: To all *most* who replied to “dj”’s post: In most cases, the author did not stereotype. For the most part, it is written, “9 out of 10″. That is not everyone, and stating the majority is not stereotyping.
At “yo mama”:
What is with that name? >.> Moving on… Honestly, If I were to refer to that idea of women who go clubbing in overly-tight shirts and pretty much no bottoms, I’d call them “club hotties” too. It’s an ideal. That’s not to say that the author is calling them a hottie so much as the term represents an idea of a type of person of which he or she would like to express.
Oh, wait– was that too complicated for you? Let me rephrase: AUTHOR NOT CALLING GIRLS HOTTIES– AUTHOR TALKING ABOUT IDEA. You know, those things that float around in your head (though, it seems, seldom appear in your head).
Oh, now look, I’m being scornful. I’ll make nice for the interwebs. *wink*
Now, I’d like to claim that I’m female (haha, “yo mama”) and I’m dating a nerd. I’m also sixteen and therefore in a younger stage of life. And sure, I look at the hot jock guys, but I’d never say yes if one of them asked me out. I have no need in participating an a relationship where my other is less intelligible than I am (and I have to say, it’ll take quite a stretch to get that bad). I’ve always been one to date a geek or nerd, if you will, and every one of my boyfriends is a geek. All of them are just as tiring as jocks, and show off just as much, they just do it in a way that I can observe and understand, whereas similar actions in other subcultures ultimately confuse me. Really, how can one compare “yo mama” jokes to getting the smallest decimal in pi? At least in the latter, you know which one can waste more time on you.
I agree with just about everything on that list. ^_^
And my *nerdy* boyfriend is an eagle scout, and therefore could take me wherever I wanted to go and what not. But not only could he go hunting for food if lost in the wild, but he could also keep in his head the six-page-long list of things I’m allergic to so that he wouldn’t kill the wrong species of pigeon. Beat that.
This woman speaks the truth, also not all geeks like Mountain Dew(some prefer Dr. Pepper). I would also like to give the highest regards to DJ for winning the biggest dumb ass of the year award, and can’t wait to hear his encore speech. I can just imagine him sitting at his computer with his Costa Rican friend who sky-dives, his carnival pal, and his hooker friends in Las Vegas trying to type that appalling paragraph which so hurtfully damaged my sense of not giving a FUCK. I’d like to agree with the above valiant attempts to remend their ego’s (not EGGO’S for you meat-heads out there) from the epic troll who came and hurt absolutely no one’s feelings and was probably just trying to grow his e-peen.
Clearly there *are* a few things us geeks are not good at.
1. Identifying trolls.
2. Resisting the flame-bait that the trolls bring.
Awesome post, Koka :))
Well, well, well. This page was unfortunately brought to my attention by stumble upon. Why anyone would recommend such an uninteresting page is beyond me. Thumbs down. Despite maintaining that geeks are of superior intellect, this discussion wouldn’t stimulate a knuckle-dragging troglodyte.
Bah, this has been done a million times, and better. Why bother with this now?
Second … what constitutes “geek” has evolved. Yeah, I can hack, love caffeine, and own too many PCs … but i’m ALSO that well-dressed guy in the coffee shop giving you that sly calm smile. Things are not what they used to be, and your choices aren’t as binary as you’ve laid out here.
Finally, you didn’t address some of the serious downsides to dealing with geeks that I have encountered upon serious long-term exposure to the culture, ones that could kill the romance with a quickness:
1) Geeks are often humble, but not all of ‘em. There is an incredible geek-specific brand of arrogance whereby a linear relationship forms in their mind that suggests their mastery of everything programmable and hackable firmly extends to the entirety of the real world and known universe. You’ll know your boyfriend is this kind of geek when he compulsively corrects people on even the slightest mistakes in conversation and begins every second sentence with “WELL, TECHNICALLY …” making everyone shoot you confused and disapproving looks. Especially beware of the arrogant geek who’s discovered politics (after refusing to take it as an elective in College) but has become convinced he also utterly understands (read: he’s never wrong) people and power too. You can’t take this guy ANYWHERE (and not just because of that fanny pack he wears).
2) Lack of familiarity with women builds some SERIOUS issues regarding women (anything from poor assumptions to actual hardcore closet misogyny) into some geeks; in these cases they often have no such ideas are distasteful and unhealthy, because no geek has certainly ever called them on it, and they don’t know enough women to run into the obvious trouble that’s now afoot. If your geek boyfriend is ALSO suffering from the particular arrogance described above, you’re particularly doomed.
3) Some of those quaint, introverted harmless geek personality traits can come with mild to serious mental health issues attached. Some are going to freak out on me for saying this, but I have very simply seen this one play out too many times, so don’t bother. You really do need to ask yourself hard questions about how well adjusted your geek boyfriend is if he lives in a basement with no lights, owns six cats, checks his stove a dozen times an hour to be sure it’s off, considers going outside or exercising “scary”, never sleeps, worries about “them”, and can’t deal with other human beings past you and his boss.
dj41326 - Are you aware of the term irony?
Made me laugh. Some of it is very true. It’s all in good fun, and likely most of this holds true for ’sensitive guys’ not just geeks. Nice post Koka!
so sad…a rather enjoyable, funny post, followed by tons and ton of opinions. On what? Read it, enjoy it or don’t, but don’t give it all the weight, and most certainly not all the comments that followed. does anyone really care?
I dont understand why i cant get a girlfriend
Im the biggest nerd in school, im 13, and i spend my free time speculating quantum physics and building computers, and im not ugly btw.. but nobody likes me (i admit, im not trying very hard) but still… it seems like if the kids whom can read at first grade level can get one with no problem, it seems like i should have a fair chance. Im just sort of lonely and i want a friend, but nobody likes me… but im sure ill have more luck when there are actually girls that know how to do more than press the translucent green button on the monitor…
You have given hope to geeks everywhere. Thank you!
I’d like to point out that this little article has been floating around the internet for years, and certainly wasn’t written by “koka sexton”.
dj41326: I’d whoop you silly if you ever said that about me. I’m a self-proclaimed nerd/geek from way back, however I’m tattooed up the yang and love my motorcycle, partying and getting down in the sack in the swinger lifestyle. Yet, I’m right up there with the geeks in terms of tech (no, I don’t waste my time on WOW, I actually look to make money so I can party even more).
I’ve modified my appearance a bit over the years, but 15 years ago, I was right there…typical geek look.
Work hard, play hard.
I agree though, we do make better boyfriends, and I’m not saying that because I’m one, I believe it.
Maybe you’re all reading too far in to this.
@dj41326 when have you ever needed to make a fire in the wilderness or survive of the land? Maybe the nerds deserve better than you if you can’t by a lighter and a snack or if you often wake up in the wild without a clue why. I do however agree that she did stereotype nerds.
Ok, I’m not normally the ‘replying-to-the-internet’ sort of person. Prefer to just read stuff and giggle when stoned. The reason I’m replying now…. Well I’m drunk… I like to say things when I’m drunk. And I just got drunk on chartreuse and sloe gin and then engaged in what escapes being an orgy only through a lack of pentration. Well, there wasn’t much anyway. So I feel so incredibly cool right now that I feel justified in forcing my probably idiotic opinions on people. But also…. I am kind of concerned that everyone seems to have jumped on the whole ‘is this a stereotype’ issue. I think it’s reasonable to assume that YES, it’s a stereotype. Really, that’s so obvious and unexciting that it merits capitals. But stereotypes…. well they become stereotypes for a reason. This is often because they have some basis in truth. Also geek can mean any number of things. Clearly this article is written about the American TV/film ‘geek’. I’m sure plenty of them exist (though being English I have yet to meet any but it could just be an American thing. People are always telling me American highschoools are really as segregated as TV suggests and this really blows my ****ing mind.). But anyway, that’s really not important. What is important about this is the utterly abhorant line about being able to ‘take your pick of geek guys’. Yes. Because men are just like things in a shop and the ‘good ones’ get sold out quickly so go out with a ‘geek’. There’s a near unlimited supply ready for the taking. This is a horrible horrible way of thinking about people. Also, you like geeks so much but you’ve never slept with one? Seriously? Are you underage or a Catholic or something? Since I, like most of the people in this thread, believe that my one example is even remotely useful in an argument on based on such wide examples involving this many anonymous people,I shall say that everyone should screw geeks because i sleep with one who is ****ing AMAZING (again, it deserves captials, believe me) in bed.
I hereby blame any and all errors of spelling, grammar, intelligence, thinking to bleep out crass four letter words for female gentalia or sexual intercourse or similar on my inebriation levels and my dylexia.
Well, I’m a geek (I program in Ruby, Java, Perl & Unix shell script, I can hand-code XHTML 1.0 Strict & I know the differences between SQL on Oracle & SQL Server, for starters, got my first computer back in ‘81 & I’ve worked in IT services for over 10 years) - but I appreciate pretty girls, forget birthdays & stuff, know a variety of martial arts & outdoor survival skills… Most of the geek guys I know are fellow martial artists, people who do stuff like creating a thermal lance from pasta at a barbeque just for the hell of it, who carry a leatherman tool & get use out of every bit of it. We’re bikers & goths; we go clubbing, we race our bikes on the track. Having a working brain & being a guy are not exclusive. To be honest, I don’t know any geeks who conform to your stereotypes, koka or dj. These stereotypes are just caricatures created in highschool, which should by rights be abandoned once you grow up.
Great post “geeks of the world unite!”.
Even though this post will go to the bottom of the page, and therefore almost no one will bother scrolling all the way down to see this, I would still like to say that pretty much everyone that posted above me and below dj took the flame bait. I still say that this article is a good one, but it does have it’s stereotyping flaws and neglects to fit the current image of the “geek”. On a lighter note, after reading all the comments above, I was laughing my arse off by the 23rd one! Another thing to add, not all geeks play wow. I don’t, and none of my friends do, who I would place in your “geek” stereotype.
Obvious troll is obvious,
-Bobovich
This is the fucking dumbest post I’ve ever read. Anyone agreeing with that djrandomnumbers guy are in critical need of diversion from their everyday life. The first noticable thing; you are discussing whether a hypothetical person could take his girlfriend ziplining in a foreign country, or on some “unforgetable” trip to las vegas. What you probably don’t understand is life in all its simplicity. No one needs to be a steroid-injected stereotype “I’M A GODDAMN MAN” macho jock, to either have money, or have a good time with your girlfriend, or possess a good lifequality for that matter. Peoples narrowness of vision pisses me off, and I’m not someone you would categorize either a “geek” or a “nerd”, but seriously, wake the fuck up
Well, I guess you could call me a geek. I have my MSIA and have been working with computers since the early 80s. I lead a WoW guild for several years, and I am an adjunct professor at a local college.
Indeed, there are points in this article that are accurate. It is also true that there are many geeks who do not fit into this category. Some geeks are true jerks, some are jerks because they don’t know any better. a lack of social skills afflicts many of them. I myself an not a social person. I used to be, but getting burned by so many people have left me more satisfied leading a more solitary life. I have a fiance, and children. I think my fiance feels secure in my geekdom. She is not afraid that I will cheat on her, and knows I love her, and will not leave her for the next “hottie” that looks my way.
As far as what dj41326 has to say, he illustrates the author’s points well. What is more valuable to a woman? Would she rather be safe in the knowledge that you know how to start a fire without a match, or that you can fix her computer? Will she feel more secure in your “manly” arms, or that she knows she is appreciated and that you would never betray her because you understand loyalty?
Would a Geek take you to Paris? Certainly, as long as there is a broadband connection at the hotel so he can stay connected! He is probably more likely to be able to do this, as educated people, on the whole, make more money than someone with outdoorsman skills.
But Geeks are not for every woman. Every woman has their own needs and desires, and no man can be a perfect fit for everyone. What matters most is that the couple respects and loves each other for who they are, instead of who the “could” be.
I like this article. So much has been made of the “manly” man and how they are what women want. It is nice for someone to come out and say that “geeks” can be a good match for a woman who is interested in being loved for who they are (rather than how they look) and feeling secure.
A word of advice to women though, geeks tend to be very smart, and they tend to show that a lot. Even if you aren’t the world’s most educated person, don’t be intimidated or take offense at this. It is simply their nature to “talk smart.” They aren’t trying to put you down, this is simply who they are. Many “techies” have a hard time communicating in a manner that the everyday person understands. This is a shortcoming, but they can learn.
Well said Stan. Great article.
I’m a geek. Tried and true. And everything on this list, is true. I’m not ugly by anyones standards. But the fact of the matter is when girls find out i’m a geek, they tend to shy away from me. Really sucks.
I am a major geek. Not that I speak binary or anything but I totally embarrass myself around some people when I start talking about technology. I must admit when I went on a trip to Paris, having a highspeed connection was very appreciated.
All right First off I am a Geek, not a nerd, mind you. @dj41326 : Those things you said can’t be done by nerds, not geeks.
Nerd: The person who cannot do anything dj41326 said.
Geek: The person who can do those things because :
1) I have a better job than any non-geek or nerd. Why? I am smarter than non-geeks and nerds are the ones who never talk.
2) Most geeks usually are in the boy scouts, which means that they know survival.
3) Despite popular ideas, geeks can fight. Very well in fact. Most of us take a self-defense course, and due to the blatantly obvious lack off screwing off, we actually practice at home and are better than most people.
Ending conclusion:
Geek = The person the author talks about.
Nerd = “Wanna be” Geek
Non-geek = Average person or one of the “flashy guys” the author mentions
dj41326 has insecurities about his manhood because he just realized he can’t get ahead in life by growing chest hair and showing off his boner.
Oh dear. Koka, I apologize on behalf of the people who can’t get through anything without instigating drama. Constructive comments such as Twi’s, I commend. Overall, a good stumble. =)
9 out of 10 people agree that this is a viral ad for Mt. Dew.
@anyone responding to dj41326:
Congratulations on getting trolled. Responding to that drivel accomplishes what the poster wanted.
@author:
Good article, enjoyed the read. Found via StumbleUpon!
Cuz knowing how to reinstall teh windows is sooooo Sexy…
Although that was an extreme exaggeration of geekdom (not to all) but it does apply in a wide scale if you disregard and replace with your situation things that don’t apply. I
Mtn dew = cherry coke or iced tea
Socially awkward= nope
annnnnd i do get ass comments but it’s included with the whole and all.
I consider my boyfriend a ‘geek’… (i consider myself a ‘geek’ too…. some say i’m just a dork :-p) but aside from re-wiring and modifying stuff, fixing my computer, helping with code and such he also does all my oil changes and most of my basic maintenance on my car, rides a gsxr 750, he races in SOLOII events, and rock climbs as a pass time when he can.
so not all geeks are text book cases of geekdom.
Either way i know mine is as perfect as it gets for me…. if only i could get him to like cats…. haha
Hahaha wow. Nice comments everyone!
Oh for the love of:
Theatre Dorks, Techies, Computer nerds, Electronics Geeks(they’re different! Other devices,Hello! ), DnD Dorks, DDR Dorks, Anime/ Manga -loving geeks, Vampire Geeks, Internet Dorks, Chess Club Nerds, 16-Candles-Style Dorks, etc.
P.S. # 8 consists of what we like to call “the Techie diet” of Pizza, Caffeinated beverages, and high-sugar ,no-nutritional-value, portable snacks!
YAY techie diet!
and yay geeks!
Overall, I enjoyed the article very much. I got some good laughs from it. Everyone getting trolled; HAHA you fail. Way to go. Hahaha
*Wi-Five!* @ Toby
dj41326’s reply is genius! Better than the article imho.
A masterful example of taking the piss, so many folk fell for it.
I LOVE my nerd! He holds me in his manly arms every night. He kisses me under waterfalls after we’ve hiked up trails for nearly an hour. He kisses me in town when the wind blows the tress to make the blossoms fall around us. And he teaches me coding and explains quantum physics to me. He’s super muscular from being on a swim team for years, and he’s the sweetest guy I’ve ever known. I love him!! Nerds rule!
I seems the arguments on this list are a little biased from both ends. I like the initial posting, as I think I conform to a good number of what people would call geeks. I code in 10 languages, have the funkiest laptop you have ever seen, I have not had so much as a sip of alcohol in my entire existence, and all the smoking I have done is secondary smoking. I decide on a hotel based on its internet connectivity, and I go to Singapore just to enjoy computer malls. I respect women, and I value more than just “Ass.” I watch Criminal Minds, Junkyard Wars, Overhaulin, star wars and other such nerdy TV shows. Here is the punch line… I even wear glasses! (ok, they are designer, but still glasses)
Speaking for myself, I am so seriously DIY that I can not only fix the toaster or change a bulb, I can MAKE a table, chair or TV stand from blocks of wood. I can arc weld (check out junkyard wars.) I have a sneaky suspicion I am intelligent, and I have been to all continents except Australia. I am a very good cook too
I am trying to illustrate the point that stereotypes don’t just happen, they happen because there are similar traits in geeks. However there will always be things that are different about them.
Anyway, apart from advertising myself
When I was in college, geeks were a no-go area. The funny thing is, now, most of the college cheerleaders I know are now married to guys who were serious geeks in college, because they are the ones with the money! I myself run a software company, and at 29, I drive a few fully paid up cars (some mmight venture to call them luxury cars,) 2 paid up houses, I travel all over the world, have NO debt, I mean ZERO debt, and I make more than six figures annually. four out of the 10 wealthiest men in the world are geeks. The others chanced upon their wealth by inheritance. So, I am sure people will agree with me that geeks have a fair bit of earning potential. So if you are a lady and you want to be able to AFFORD trips to Paris without saving for them all year… its geek I recommend.
HUGE MINUS with geeks…. They do not “DRESS UP” I only have two suits, one bought for me by my mother! I wear golf shirts and jeans 99% of the time. So, if you want a guy who will impress your friends at a cocktail, avoid the geek! His bank account may be bursting at CitiBank, but it won’t show.
I could write the whole day about my kind. The bottom line is, this post seems to have generated huge interest!
LONG LIVE Nerds!!!
I find this article very sterotypical of Nerds/Geeks,
Not all geeks are neglected, low-maintenance or unattractive.
When talking about people it’s not simply Black or White.
I’m going to start bringing a printed copy of this post out with me when I go to bars.
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dj41326, My geek husband has, in fact, taken me zip lining. Will go to museums with me and loves hiking. But, yes, its a stereotyped list because its meant to be FUNNY. This list wasn’t published in Psychology Today, so relax.
I thought this was hilarious. I used to take actors and musicians and then married a network tech - it’s truer than not
*edit:
I used to *date* actors (not take)
I’m apparently not awake yet.
Ok, I don’t think the author was trying to stereotype in a demeaning way or say geeks are unattractive…in fact she is PRAISING geeks throughout this entire wonderfully written arcticle. I LOVE this…I started dating a geek about five months ago and he is the best boyfriend I have ever had…and almost this ENTIRE article falls true! I love him so much and when my girlfriends talk about how shitty frat guys are treating them I say hey…GET A GEEK!!!
As a nerd/geek, I must protest to the stereotyping going on here. Just like any other type of person/people in this world, nerds and geeks are a very diverse bunch, and everyone needs to accept that fact without question.
Here are my personal examples of how I (a geek) am very diverse…
Geeking out over:
1. 4+ Gigs of RAM.
2. I think that anything below 300Gigs makes for a SMALL hard-drive.
3. When my computer has a software/operating system issue, I fix it myself.
4. I use MS Windows XP (Home and Pro.), Vista, and numerous Linux distrobutions.
5. I dislike non-modified software. If it’s from the vendor, it’s mostly worthless.
6. I read a lot!
7. I crochet.
8. I work on other people’s computers for fun and, if they aren’t friends, money.
9. I enjoy upgrades.
10. I find code-humor to be humorous.
11. I maintain a 3.9GPA in college.
12. I enjoy maintaining my own private home network.
Man-handling the world:
1. When my car has issues, I fix it. Oil change, filters, hoses, starter, etc. I can fix and replace all of it.
2. I know the names of all the tools, and there are a LOT of tools on my work bench, tool bases, car, etc. Example: I think that a hammer is pretty cheap if it is less than $20. Also, I think that it is good to spend $120 on a socket set. Craftsman, baby!
3. I mow my own lawn and do the weed eating.
4. I use an ax to cut down my trees.
5. I go camping. In example; this means that I set up a tent, build my fire, hunt for my food all while out in the middle of the woods. Rabbit is good to eat! Fish? Well, I don’t really enjoy it, but I’ll eat it. And no, I don’t bring modern appliances or anything.
6. Here’s a good one in my opinion. I work as a Miner. As in, the company I work for mines the Earth. I put explosives in the ground and watch it blow up. Hooah!
7. I was in the U.S. Army…Infantry rules!
How’s that for diversification?
they ignore you for video games. :/
koka -
not for nothing, but, hasn’t your topic been covered elsewhere?
like - almost word for word in this blog:
http://www.dobadob.com/geek-humour/15-reasons-geeks-make-great-boyfriends/
if you are going to plagiarize - at least mention the other authors…
thanks,
johnny
ps - you can feel free to delete my comment - but if i saw it, you know other people did. i enjoy your blog, and when it is your words, its seems to me you are a great writer…
I hear ya, Koka!!!
Traded in an ex-high school jock who was more interested in appearances than what was going on at home for an intelligent, warm sensitive and appreciative “geek”. I find him very attractive and mmMMMmmmm…..
We’ve traveled the world with laptops in hand.
The only thing I’m kicking myself about is that I’d spent too many years with someone else….
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Unfortunately the spelling thing is not completely true anymore. With the development of slang like 1337, there is no guarantee that the geek can use proper English.
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I meet my geek playing Halo 2 and we have been married for a year now. Number 7 is spot on
I feel bad for the author of this page. They wrote on a decent topic. And somebody didn’t like what they said.(This person will exist on every topic that exists) Now instead of talking about the post everyone is bashing that one person. which makes you all no better then him. No I am not this dj1234242 person I’m just another geek who was picked on. And ya know what? Its still picking on somebody even if i don’t agree on what he says but calling him a moron is sinking to a bs high school level. And to the writer thank you.
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have anyone some geek for me? i want one, really =)))
Anyone else out there think it is funny that a comment is getting more attention then the article itself? I think “DJs” comment was meant to show that it is unfair to lump geeks but somehow he strayed from the topic.
“a guide to economic stability for superficial girls that aren’t that hot.”
This is all generally true, and your geek might grow up to be Kevin Rose: very hot and very wealthy.
I think this article is fairly accurate with a few exceptions. Introverted geeks are pretty keen, but, extroverted ones can be eccentric, bordering on creepy. Social skills aside, (they have none, trust me, I know), geeks are a fine choice for a life partner, with the exception of the extrovert. I cannot stress this enough. Do you think the extroverted handyman is sometimes a little ‘too much’. Try a hyper active three hundred pound homophobic Kevin Smith idolizer (why are extroverts more commonly homophobic? You’d think they’d be ‘open’ or something.)
Physical appearnce usually cements someone into a cultural niche. So don’t expect to find attractive nerds. Cute nerd. Plain nerd. Etcetera. (emo kids aren’t nerdy, they’ll social outcasts).
Also, not all nerds are nerds? Do you play WoW? Not a nerd sorry, you more than likely phail. Do you spell fail phail? That’s a phail. Online culture is so every inclusive that the outcasted members of society are those who do not participate in vicarious lifestyles. Everyone plays wow, texts their friends, and shoots morons in the head on their X-Box.
Nerd read cult literature (nothing new of course, nothing so trite, usually works predating the seventies). They program. They write. They work in libraries, for law firms and on the stock market. What is identified within this article is mainstream culture. That quarterback on the University or College team (Go Big City Sports Team). He plays Wow, watches gay porn, drops by second life, fixes his computer (not his car) and texts everyone he knows every three point five seconds.
Nerds, specialize in highly complex topics, and are more than often introverted, withdrawn, obsessed. Eccentric and romantic? Perhaps, idealists tend to be. Quick quiz.
Have a facebook account?
Myspace?
Say web 2.0?
Read comics?
Play online role playing games?
Use L337 speech? OMG and ORLY.
TXTMSG?
Read Blogs about culture? Gaming, electronics, music, politics?
fail, fail, fail, fail.
Everyone does these things. It is the standard.
Obsessively partake in abstract activities? Math equations, programming, painting, writing?
INFP anyone?
Snobbish? No care of personal hygiene?
Maniac or depressed?
Maniac depressed?
Speech imped-imped, impediment?
IQ over 140?
Nerd. Nerd. Nerd.
Easier question? Dude who plays Wow and guitar and reads Craigslist and never showers and works at the gas station / electronics store, cafe, etc. NORMAL CIVILIAN.
Doctor, lawyer, teacher, astronaut, author (books not blogs), programmer? NERD.
Sorry, it’s just not about IQ but culture as well. Education orientated = nerd. Entertainment = Civilian. It has always been this way. Since, well, forever.
All so true. I love my geek husband very much and could never ask for a better man. He’s even willing to take me to see Sex and the City tonight!
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I let my girlfriend read this and she totally agrees on all points
I’m a geek dude, and for me, I highly agree on most of these, with the exception of those that seem to say that geeks aren’t romantic and will focus on tech stuff more than the girl (the hierarchy goes girlfriend > tech stuff >>>[infinity]>>>> other girls–at least for me.)
Although I think any “regular” girls are kind of out of luck, seeing as I’m looking for a geek girl myself. I mean, I’d like to have the same interests as the person I’m going out with, you know?
Hi all
Interesting to read these comments. I have a question for you lot…
Going out with this guy, he is actually a good looking guy so no geeky nerdy type, but:
1. He is an IT
2. Yes he does like his playstation a lot
3. He doesn’t speak much which is a complete opposite of me!!
4. Doesn’t drink, well sometimes but seriously, I ve never seen him drunk (not necessarily a bad thing!)lol
5. He is very tight with his money, doesn;t really like to go out….
He does smoke weed though, so I am wondering…is he still a NERD or what???
As per response to post
“I think your article unfairly lumps all “geeks” as you put it into the same category. This is like saying that all black men have huge private and the cheat on women. As a side note it is obvious someone has wronged you in the past and you are settling with easy prey and someone you feel you have con” - Dj41326
I myself am a geek and I am privileged to know of a wonderful woman that lets me call her my girlfriend. Don’t go mouthing off to this wonderful author who gives us all hope. You are just scared that people will read this and hurt your chances at getting a decent girlfriend. A true girlfriend, one who is fit to spend the rest of your life with, should not care as much about where you can take her or how much money you spend on her. If she is worth it she will care about who you are, not how much you have. I agree that not all geeks are the same. I am not a normal geek. As a state champion power lifter i am in better shape than most athletes, but still decent with Python. Learn from this even if you aren’t a geek. Being Manly doesn’t mean benching cars (tho i can) but knowing how to stand up for what you think, respecting women, and being able to be true to yourself. Most geeks are more men than you could ever handle and that frightens you.
Well, yeah I could say im a ‘Geek’ but no, this is, yes IS, stereotypical, and NO, people can’t just fit into a ‘Class’ because of the majourity of things they do. But yes I do agree on alot of the post, if I was to class myself, I suppose I would be a Geek, doesn’t mean, I aprechiate girls. (Which I do..) But the point is, just because you can class yourself, or be classed, doesn’t prove, or justify, or say anything. Ive only just looked at this thread today, and read through a majourity of the comments. I see theres alot of intelligent people here. Im 17, and yes you can read my bebo if you really care rather then me sitting here explaining myself to prove a pointless point - http://www.bebo.com/LukeV635 . But whats really annoying me is, you all seem to think. That what makes you a Geek or Nerd or W/e classic stereotype you seem to fit in, its completely irrelivent, were all different (FULL STOP).
Sorry im not a very good spelling nor do I care.
Thanks for reading..
i’am a nerd and like any other nerd i enjoy being in the company of other nerds.with all that said i think we as geeks need more credit we really are decent people
Hey why is it so hard to find geek girl
oh! and the mt dew thing was really steriotype,cause i love my self some diet coke
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This is excellent and many, if not all, are very true.
You may want to add in your update that there is a dating/friendship site called, findyourgeek.com
I’m not one to comment to things I find on Stumbleupon, but this was just too good. I’m a 50 yr. old grandmother who has been married to a wonderful geek for 32 years. He’s everything that you listed in your blog (subtract Mt. Dew, add coffee). He’s also most of the things that the jerk thought that geeks weren’t in his response. As an AF Officer, he still does 50 sit-ups and 50 push-ups every night at the age of 51. (very sexy to watch) He’s about to take me to Boston, NYC, Honolulu, Tokyo AND Las Vegas all in one summer. He’s also the best father of five kids and grandpa of two a mom could ask for, as well as a loving and caring husband. I’ve told all four of my daughters for years that they should marry geeks. The one who is married listened to me, and she happily plays WOW alongside of her man, right under their framed Star Wars posters hanging in their living room, while their son builds with Star Wars Legos.
Much bullshit is contained in this post.
80% of the things you mentioned about “geeks” are totally untrue in most cases, you are just fueling a many year old stereotype about nerdy people and probably don’t know jack shit about the matter.
Haha, very entertaining.
lmao very very interesting no doubt about that
Awesome,
But if you get a geek you are likely to end up second to a computer
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I don’t care for the condescension in the post, though I do agree with the bulk of it. Geeky guys will rock your world.
To be honest, if you go out with anyone with low self esteem and no motivation to overcome their weaknesses if you are a guy or girl it will end horribly.
Getting out of your shell is a challenge we all have to face, and as someone who’s been a social reject for 99% of my school life, it is wonderful once you realise that the only way forward is to find confidence and break out. Girls don’t like unmanly, un-confident, whiney guys (unless you so happen to be mad creative), you have to get a little “rawr” in your life.
If they take their confidence problem and let it just overrule them, how are they going to deal with all the problems and issues of a relationship?
The only girls that like complete pushovers are of the type that likes to take advantage of said pushovers.
This article might be edgy in maybe 2001, but it is so dated and stereotypical now.
“7.) Sex. Yep. Sex. I’m not really familiar with this myself, but I’ve friends who’ve been intimate with geek guys and it’s raves all around. They say a virgin wrote the Kama Sutra… all that time thinking about sex, imagining sex, dreaming about sex, (they are male after all) coupled with a desire to make you happy? Use your imagination.”
Bullshit. Watching hours of pornography and hentai does not make you good at sex, and when you do finally do it, you will fumble around and laugh and arguably have a great learning experience, but you will not be great at sex. Being great at sex means applying passion and drive through the coordination and spatial awareness and strength from experience. Both parts are key.
Geek here; I dunno how alive this discussion is but I have to disagree with dj; I go rock climbing, play tennis, fence, know how to use a naginata and can start a fire with coke can and a bar of chocolate (thanks to the internet of course). I play several PC games (neverwinter nights, nethack, zork sometimes) and an MMO (Age of Conan) but they by no means dictates my life. I can code in at least 6 different languages and and three bookshelves filled with books including several pencil and paper sourcebooks.
I think most of the us geeks will agree an “unforgettable trip to Las Vegas” will inevitably include staying at the Star Trek the Experience, and the several hours at Excalibur, which I think is far preferable to a weekend in a drunken stupor with nothing to show for it.
Well, I guess that’s all the good things about geeks, no one is a stereotype though
I met the geek of my dreams at a tabletop roleplaying game, and married him more than 7 years ago. Still deliriously happy, and still wholly in love!
“I’m going to start bringing a printed copy of this post out with me when I go to bars.”
This brings nerd to a whole new level.
@James (103)
Aye! Hear hear!
(in other words: he’s right)
@ dj41326 :Wait - you mean all black men don’t have huge private ?
Haha, I had to laugh at this post
Heres my interpretation of the reasons for dating a geek:
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1) Don’t know how to cook? Don’t worry, he doesn’t either. You can both just live on fast food take out and chug pop straight from the 2L.
2) Got a fat ass, or just working on one? No problem, he wont care, hes got one too, or hes in the process of growing it.
3) Like control? No problem, this dude will do whatever you say. After all, he knows that if you dump him he’ll get fired right back into the fat/thin geek heap where you found him.
4) Like cheating? No problem, see #3.
5) Do you like not trying too hard in life? No problem, he’ll totally support you and never belittle your lack of ambition. All he’ll require in return is a bi-annual hand job and disregard for his obscene consumption of fatty snack foods.
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I know, I know, I’m a negative bastard.
@dj41326. Yes I would go zip lining in Costa Rica, I would do the romantic Paris trip AND the weekend in Las Vagas, I’d like to throw a trip to Egypt in there too.
Furthermore, you accused the OP (that’s original poster) of lumpin all geeks into the same catagory, you just did the same thing but saying we all play WoW, irony much?
As for that catchin food in the wilderness problem — gun-check, ammo-check, catching food-pretty simple with those.
I have won a girl astuffed animal at the carnival….(7 actually but who’s counting).
So please stfu!!
Sheesh. I must be a nerd then.
This stereotype approaches to truth maybe for teenage years. Combined with the usual problems of getting to adulthood, some of the items mentioned are true, but I do not agree with the rest. No, I am not a nerd or geek.
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Whazzzup gur?!? I thought the reference to geeks saying things like that in jest was funny because it is very true. Most of the article is very true. Although, I don’t get ignored by women and never have. I am a very loyal boyfriend and rarely forget a date. Nor do I fancy “Mountain Dew,” but I do have a horrible addiction to coffee. My friends like energy drinks like, BAWLS, Amp, Rockstar, Redbull, etc…
Thanks for posting this,
it was a good read.
-Mufter
I like this article, some funny points is really good.
I LOVE THIS ARTICLE. Being married to a total computer geek I could not agree more! The more of a geek the better. I spent years dating the jocks and fell in love with my nerd!